"Filled with great advice for expectant moms, New Mother makes the perfect gift for any pregnant woman.
The information author Allie Chee provides allows for women to be in charge of their birth and postpartum time. Instead of just letting things happen, Chee informs us on how to plan for a desirable birth experience and teaches the reader that this really is something that you must be proactive about."
• Do you want a natural childbirth?
• Have you considered home birth?
• Do you believe that your postpartum can and
should be magical?
NEW MOTHER: Using a Doula, Midwife, Postpartum Doula, Maid, Cook or Nanny to Support Healing, Bonding and Growth
NEW MOTHER, Book Summary
Reclaim the magic in motherhood!
It is possible to have it all: a more natural birthing experience; relaxing, bonding family time postpartum; time to care for yourself; time to take care of your home; and the ability to choose whatever vision you hold for your experience of childbirth and motherhood.
That’s not what we’ve been told, taught, or empowered to do... until now.
There’s more to pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum than what is usually discussed in literature and doctors’ offices: the next problem, pain, or procedure! New Mother offers a clear vision for reclaiming the beauty and sacred nature of pregnancy and parenthood.
Author Allie Chee, at age 42 and after two miscarriages, wanted a home birth, a traditional 40-day postpartum healing and bonding time, and to breastfeed and co-sleep for two years. That’s not for everyone, but indeed almost everyone would want a more natural, loving childbirth experience at home or in the hospital than the standard, mechanical childbirth template common today—and this book helps you plan for just that…a more natural, loving childbirth experience!
Throughout the work, vignettes of the author’s and other mothers’ experiences are included that will resonate with parents, keep them laughing, and encourage them to rewrite the story of their lives.
"If you are pregnant or are a new mother you cannot afford not to heed
the advice given by Allie Chee in her book, New Mother, if you want to experience the true joy and fulfillment of new motherhood.
A very practical book written with humor and wisdom."
-DR. MAO SHING NI, Ph.D., D.O.M., Dipl. ABAAHP
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TBS has been a real learning curve for me on a daily basis at times. The way I stumble across new information is humbling. Today I learned that Autism is in fact Mercury poisoning! I could go on and on about the information I have learned that has caused me to feel VERY heavy feelings of sadness, anger, regret, stupidity, etc. When us admins post information to Facebook that women get mad and sad about...we feel it and we don't like being the bearer of bad news anymore than you enjoy hearing the news!
A few of you may be wonderfing why I am blabbing about this. The answer is simple. Modern society has done a huge disservice to mothers and babies where profits are the deciding factor on health...not geniune concern for humanity. I cannot wait for society to strike a balance, leaning away from patriarchy and moving towards a more matriarchal way of doing things. But until this happens we will be hurt by believing and trusting certain things in life regarding the wellbeing of our families and ourselves. We believe in parents, particularly mothers learning about factual, truthful information so they can learn from their mistakes and change how they do things. Because ultimately we are the ones with the power, making decisions for an entire household of poeple more often that not aren't we?
I yearn for EVERYONE to see the goodness and the love in life's precious moments of birth whether it's the mom, dad, birth companion, doula, nurse or care provider.
I also live for the day that doctor's offices stop taking funds from formula companies, formula companies start answering for health problems their product causes and breastfeeding to be seen as the NORMAL thing to do...boob hanging out and all if the mother chooses.
There will be a time when Big Pharma & the FDA will be mandated to have a conscience about killing innocent people systematically for profit and share price; when their schemes, cost benefit vs risk analysis and claims that you'll die of the "xyz" virus without this vaccine are no longer accepted as truthful information from a trusted source.
I cannot WAIT for things to change and there not to be a need for TBS at all! Unless you ladies want to stick around...but I really hope we aren't making women mad and sad in 20 years. Let's do our best to save the next generation from these difficult struggles.
Pickles Maternity website officially went live in mid-October 2012 after a year of planning and designing andless than two weeks before my third child was born. Prior to starting Pickles Maternity I had spent many years in a part-time position with the Saskatchewan Health Regionas well as attending University part-time where I was working toward a degree in Accounting. I truly enjoyed my job, and was looking forward to starting a career in the accounting field once I completed my degree. However,during my maternity leave with my second daughter, I began to consider that I would rather do something that would allow me to spend more quality time with my children. I love all the precious moments that my children have and watching them grow and develop into their own little unique persons is so precious.
The decision to begin Pickles Maternity is the result of my own personal experiences. I have always struggled with fertility and with both my daughters I became pregnant due to a little medical intervention. After my first daughter was born, it was six years later when I finally became pregnant with my second daughter. After waiting so long for a second child, I really wanted to celebrate this personal accomplishment by buying very cute and stylish maternity clothes that would show off my tummy. Unfortunately I was frustrated by the selection I found within Saskatoon and I simply didn’t have the time to look elsewhere. A year later, when I began to consider starting my own business, it was this experience that convinced me to start a maternity store. I wanted to help other women who are also unable to find attractive and beautifully designed maternity clothes. During the process of creating Pickles Maternity, I was surprised and thrilled to discover that I was pregnant with my third child - no medical intervention needed.
A lovely TBS fan who is a nurse shared her experience in L&D during her training to become a nurse.
My favorite semester of nursing school was my maternal-child class. I spent a couple of days on a post-partum unit, a couple in the NICU, and was scheduled to do two days in Labor & Delivery. In both days there, I saw zero vaginal deliveries. None. Zip. Nada. My instructor scheduled me for a third day on the unit so I could observe vaginal deliveries. I saw two: one with an epidural, one natural. The woman with the epidural had a quick delivery, but I just remember watching the epidural placement and thinking how painful it looked and how awful it would be to have that tube just sticking out your back.
The second delivery was much longer. She had been laboring for so long, she was completely exhausted. She was wearing an oxygen mask, and was in bed on the monitors. She looked miserable. The nurse and midwife were coaching pushing, counting to 10 three times during each contraction. The father wept when his baby was born, and we took the baby straight to the warmer. I remember thinking how cool it was that my classmate and I got to do the newborn exam all by ourselves, since the nurse was busy helping the midwife control bleeding. As far as I could tell the mother was starting to hemorrhage.
Personally, this is one of my biggest regrets. I stood between that woman and her child. If I could go back now, I would take that baby and put him right back on his mama’s chest. I can’t imagine after such a difficult delivery not being able to hold my child. I wish I could apologize to her. I wish I could go back and encourage her to breast feed, which would also help with the bleeding. In fact, if I could go back there would be a lot of things I would different.
When I found out we were pregnant with our first child, I embarked on a journey of enlightenment. As a nurse, I thought I was pretty educated about pregnancy and childbirth. I had no idea what I didn’t know. I knew nothing of birth hormones, of how our bodies are MADE to birth babies, how empowering birth can be when the mother is educated, informed, and in control. I had to ask myself, “Why didn’t I know any of this?”. After much thought, I’ve realized a few things about my education.
First, nursing education is based upon and centered on the medical ideology of birth. Nurses work closely with doctors, and therefore must know what to expect and how to treat clients under medical care. Our school only had so much time to teach us the massive amounts of information necessary for hospital births, including what to do in basically any medical emergency, as well as pre and post-natal care. Education on natural birth processes could easily be deemed not as important because most women don’t birth that way in a hospital setting, where a nurse would be working. What nurses are taught, what I was taught, is consistent with what nurses “need” to know.
Additionally, even if nurses were trained in natural childbirth, they would spend their shifts caring for women birthing in a medical manner. Any natural childbirth education would be forgotten among the days and nights of epidurals, Pitocin, IV fluids, monitors, coached pushing, bedridden deliveries, and unfortunately, failed birth plans. Seeing all this, it's no wonder nurses don’t have faith in a woman’s ability to birth naturally! And, because of our “sue happy” society, nurses may often feel that to encourage a woman to birth the natural way she desires could place them in the way of a lawsuit. Or a nurse may feel that if later on the woman changes her mind, she (the nurse) will be held responsible if the new wishes of the woman cannot be fulfilled; such as an epidural not being available due to the anesthesiologist being gone, or the woman being to advanced in labor to give pain medication.
Basically, it goes back to the mindset of birth in America. Birth is treated as a medical problem with medical treatments. And in some cases, it is. Nurses should continue to be trained in how to handle medical emergencies related to pregnancy and birth. However, as we continue to educate the public and change the general opinion of how birth “has to be,” being a voice to local hospitals, and lovingly educating the nurses caring for us, I hope that nurses will become more familiar with and be able to support and assist women who chose a natural birth.
*This article is simply the experience and opinion of one woman with a nursing education, and should not be taken as medical advice or recommendation. The author has chosen to remain anonymous and resides in California U.S.A.*
Would you nurse her in the park?
Would you nurse him in the dark?
Would you nurse him with a Boppy?
And when your boobs are feeling floppy?
I would nurse him in the park,
I would nurse her in the dark.
I'd nurse with or without a Boppy.
Floppy boobs will never stop me.
Can you nurse with your seat belt on?
Can you nurse from dusk till dawn?
Though she may pinch me, bite me, pull,
I will nurse her `till she's full!
Can you nurse and make some soup?
Can you nurse and feed the group?
It makes her healthy strong and smart,
Mommy's milk is the best start!
Would you nurse him at the game?
Would you nurse her in the rain?
In front of those who dare complain?
I would nurse him at the game.
I would nurse her in the rain.
As for those who protest lactation,
I have the perfect explanation.
Mommy's milk is tailor made
It's the perfect food,
you need no aid.
Some may scoff and some may wriggle,
Avert their eyes or even giggle.
To those who can be cruel and rude,
Remind them breast's the perfect food!
I would never scoff or giggle,
Roll my eyes or even wiggle!
I would not be so crass or crude,
I KNOW that this milk's the perfect food!
We make the amount we need
The perfect temp for every feed.
There's no compare to milk from breast-
The perfect food, above the rest.
Those nursing smiles are oh so sweet,
Mommy's milk is such a treat.
Human milk just can't be beat.
I will nurse, in any case,
On the street or in your face.
I will not let my baby cry,
I'll meet her needs,
I'll always try.
It's not about what's good for you,
It's best for babies,
through and through.
I will nurse her in my home,
I will nurse her when I roam.
Leave me be lads and ma'am.
I will nurse her,
Mom I am.
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Here is a remarkable video courtesy of http://elephantsafariparklodge.com of an elephant giving birth undisturbed. She is calm and knows exactly what to do, just like her human counterparts. Unfortunately the environment and the way most women are treated in modern hospitals inhibits their evolutionary instincts and fear can easily set in. Most modern hospitals are a cold sterile, brightly lit environment with non-personalized care, not conducive to unmedicated vaginal birth. This partly explains why the average cesarean rate is 30-50% in countries that follow the western model of maternity care. If animal birth and the way they are treated in comparison to humans fascinates you, Why is Birthing Different is a must read.
Most women want to birth their babies vaginally, with only a small portion of women electively choosing to have a cesarean. Many elective cesareans are a result of fear mongering on behalf of caregivers to women who have had previous cesarean births. It wasn't until last year in 2010 that ACOG changed it's position on VBACs being a safe option for women. The climate of hospital birth needs to change to facilitate normal birth. This can be done by reducing the frequency of inductions (including routine stripping of membranes), not admitting women to the hospital who are not in active labour, allowing women the freedom to move, eat and drink during labour, decreasing the use of electronic fetal monitoring (can create false alarms) and respecting a woman's privacy so she can be comfortable, to name a few.
The alarmingly high cesarean rate needs to drop, performing major surgery on people who do not need surgery increases risks of infection, complications for mom and baby at birth and in the future. Training needs to change to adequately teach doctors in medical school about normal physiological birth, most doctors have never seen a natural birth without intervention. The following video with Dr. Eugene Declercq from Boston University School of Public Health explains the cesarean myths that are prevalent in society and why they are absolutely not true. Women are being robbed of birth and many are turning a blind eye, things NEED to change for the health and emotional wellbeing of mothers and babies worldwide.
Ina May Gaskin is described as a World Renowned Midwife, she has worked hard to earn this title. Her latest masterpiece "Birth Matters: A Midwife's Manifesta" is in my opinion her best book yet! Ina May tackles the realities of birth as it is in society today, drawing upon historical references of midwifery and obstetrics and how practices and beliefs on childbirth came to be. This is her first book where her target audience is those who do not understand or know natural birth, with an entire section devoted to men and how they NEED to be protective of their birthing goddesses by nurturing them and questioning standard birthing practices. The climate of birth on a world stage is full of human rights violatations and fear mongering.
"Birth Matter's: A Midwife's Manifesta" touches on all aspects of society, leading up to birth as we know it today. She even touches on femenism and how in the past it was incompatible with mothering. With all the strides feminism has made it really is a shame those strong women did not pay much attention to childbirth. In their quest for equality with men they abandoned motherhood and all related parts. Mothering was viewed as something that would hold the feminist movement back. Afterall women wanted to be more than just mothers and accomplish more than their own mother's did. It is unfortunate feminism didn't have a more inclusive nature, if it did maybe in this day and age women would have basic human rights met while labouring and birthing in a hospital.
The medical community is taken on by Ina May Gaskin, she refers to medicine and how birth is viewed as a medical illness, needing to be cured with technology. Of all the benefits technology has brought to our lives, it has done an enormous disservice to mothers and babies during the birthing process and immediate postpartum period after. Today in most industrialized nations that follow the western model of care, it is nearly impossible to have a natural birth in a hospital. From the moment you enter the hospital in labour they ask if you want an epidural, they make you change into a hospital gown and ask you to lie back while they manually check your cervix. There isn't a single part of this experience that empowers the women or encourages free thinking. These procedures and routines are the slipperly slope that brings a woman through a host of interventions. These interventions facilitate the caregivers because everything is standard practice and they benefit hospitals by operating with less staff overhead costs, without increasing liability in a court of law. Electronic Fetal Monitoring (EFM) has taken the place of a L & D nurse or a midwife continually being with a labouring woman. If situations arise where a hospital needs to defend itself in court against liability they present the EFM records, to show they were caring for the woman adequately.
Ina May becomes even more specific and refers to the Laws of Childbirth, (the video below goes into more depth) certain conditions need to be met for labour to progress and for the woman to have a comfortable birthing experience. A woman needs to be emotionally supported, undisturbed by strangers or people that could make her fearful, free to eat and drink as needed, and freedom to move helping baby's descend into the birth canal. Mom should be encouraged to choose a comfortable position to birth in, not flat on her back which closes off the pelvis. A woman laying in a bed connected to an IV and EFM will experience much more pain, baby will have difficulty moving into position for the birth; drastically increasing the odds of an instrumental delivery with forceps, vacuum or at last resort a cesarean birth.
The book and the video each explain how women should be able to birth in a hospital with dignity, while being respected. Society as a whole assumes common sense is standard practice in obstetrics and unfortunately it is not. Just how forceps deliveries in the 60's and 70's were common practice, the cesarean section is being increasingly overused, even though it is not leading to better outcomes for mothers and babies. More mothers and babies are suffering complications and even death during childbirth with the frequent use of the cesarean and induction methods, once only saved for true emergencies.
In conclusion the book celebrates women, birth and babies and how wonderfully nature has designed this process. Labour and birth when respected and undisturbed is the most beautiful and sacred act, it is the preparation for motherhood and women shouldn't be denied it. Ina May says, in the depths of childbirth women always learn something beneficial that makes them stronger women and mothers.
- The contraction pain doesn't end when the baby is born. Your uterus will contract for days, weeks and even months after birth. The pain is especially bad during breastfeeding in the first week or two, some women describe it as feeling like their uterus is going to fall out!
- Your vagina will look different...not just from a tear or episitomony scar (if this happens) but diferent in color...it will be a darker shade of the original color in most cases.
- Your baby will breastfeed WAY more than you can imagine...so don't be surprised when you spend half of a 24 hour period breastfeeding. Growth spurts are a whole different issue, thankfully they often don't last longer than 7 days.
- If birthing in a hospital they more often than not will give you synthetic oxytocin after the birth whether you need it for heavy bleeding or not (prevents hemorrhaging). Discuss this with your careprovider...if you don't chances are, you will be administered this via IV or a shot in your leg (as baby is crowing) and you won't notice it. This disrupts your body's natural process of making Oxytocin the much needed love hormone for bonding and establishing milk supply.
- Your baby's umbilical cord will be clamped immediately at birth in most hospitals and routinely cut shortly after. This may not surprise you, but learning the benefits of delayed umbilical cord clamping, how it's recommended by the WHO and how hospitals still routinely early clamp regardless of the benefits or potential harm caused...may surprise you.
- The foreskin that is routinely cut off of many newborn boys has a very important purpose and up until recently circumcision was performed without anesthetic: they didn't believe young babies could feel pain.
- Induction before 42 weeks is often not necessary unless you have health complications. Induction can mean a variety of things from a membrane sweep to pitocin through an IV. An induced labour is the most painful type of labour you can have, with no naturaling occuring breaks and a lack of hormones that occur naturally. It is also particularly hard on the baby and often causes fetal distress from no break during contractions.
- Epidurals come with serious risks that most women do not have explained to them prior to the epidural being administered.
- You do not NEED to tear or have an episotomy to birth...with time and patience breathing baby out, MOST babies regardless of size can be born vaginally with minimal trauma.
- Breach baby or previous cesarean doesn't necessarily mean a cesarean section is needed.
Upon hearing this one may ask themselves this question "failure to progress...or failure to wait?", understandably so when approximately 1/3 of women will have a cesarean and a number of emergency cesareans happen for this reason. Understandably there are times when a cesarean is warranted and baby is in distress. The only problem is induction, pitocin, premature rupture of membranes, epidural, and laying flat on your back to name a few...all contribute to fetal distress. If the woman is left undisturbed she was labour beautifully and things will progress wonderfully, rarely needed a c-section.
The skit below is a good protrayal of how birthing in a hospital can sometimes feel. It's hilarious and truthful as the sphincter and the cervix are muscles that work the same way. You need to be the queen of your domain, feel comfortable and know you're safe whether you're giving birth or simply taking a crap;)